Solution focused therapy (SFT) is an excellent choice for working with couples. For one, couples determine what is or is not a problem in their relationship. I know I would not want another person determining what is a problem in my own relationship, and I certainly would not want to make that determination about someone else’s relationship.
By using different skills or traits, couples can have different experiences.
SFT uses strengths couples already possess to find solutions to their problems. By using different skills or traits, couples can have different experiences. I help couples discover their strengths and put them into action.
SFT uses “the exception question” to help couples identify when the problem is not happening and to appreciate what is different about those times. I use this technique to help couples recognize and disrupt their dysfunctional patterns.
SFT sees couples as caught up in problem-saturated versus solution-building narratives. I help couples change the conversation around their relationship which can change how they experience it.
Finally, I like SFT because of its simplicity. SFT has just three guiding rules:
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Do not fix it if it is not broken.
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Do more of what works.
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Do not do what does not work.
